4 things I’ve learned


Managing a team is one of the most rewarding experiences I’ve encountered in my career. I’ve been lucky enough to have several experiences to gain inspiration from. It’s surprising how both good and bad experiences can be inspiring. I can remember several experiences I’ve had in the past that I want to make sure I NEVER replicate on anyone I work with. Here are a few positive things I’ve learned from some great people:

  1. Make the people who work on your team feel like they work with you, not for you
    1. The second someone makes me feel like I am answering to them, I can’t respect, or work with them the same way. Always think about that. A great team works together, not for their leaders.
  2. Lead without reservation
    1. I’d say that some of the most successful people that I’ve worked with throw themselves into the fire whether they know exactly what they are doing or not. Who cares if you’ve never done this before? If you go forward confidently, and problem solve your way through any obstacles you WILL come out on top. My boss and I recently took on a big project. She amazed me day after day with her positivity and get it done attitude. She never faltered, and we completed the project and impressed senior leadership. After the project wrapped, we met and she told me at times she had no idea what she was doing, and that she had never done aspects of the project before. Incredibly inspiring.
  3. The only time its acceptable to lie confidently
    1. Following #2, if someone asks you to do something you’ve never done before, don’t admit you’ve never done it. I know people who have successfully move up the ladder quickly by taking on jobs and responsibilities that were WELL outside of their expertise. Yes, I can do that, and I will do it well should be something you tell yourself often!
  4. Active listening = listening with more than just your ears
    1. This one took me awhile to grasp the concept, and I am just starting to get a little better at it. Active listening is something that will help you in all aspects of your life (just ask my husband, he will tell you how I need to continue to work on fine tuning my skills!). The people you work with are constantly telling you things without telling you things. Peoples personalities play into this also, and a lot of times it takes awhile working with people to be able to truly listen to them. Just yesterday I had a conversation with a new employee who came to NY from Chile. When we started talking, he mentioned to me how different N. Americans are from S. Americans, and that S. Americans like to share more about their lives in conversation. I had planned to go into the conversation with him selfishly wanting to know all about his past work experiences and how he planned on sparking creativity on our team. Instead, I took this bit of information into account, talked to him about his family, why he decided on taking the job in New York and how it was living in the city. By the end of our conversation, his body language was so obviously more comfortable and open. By changing my objective for the conversation, I made him feel more comfortable and willing to open up to me. Now, we have a more comfortable relationship, and I’m sure I will find out the answers to all of my questions in follow up conversations!

Hope everyone has a relaxing, fall filled weekend!






Happy Friday.

Today marks the two week spot of us being in the house, and me doing a hour long train ride commute into NY every day. The commute was probably one of the things I was most worried about when we signed the contract on the house. So funny right, something that doesn’t even exist on the property? TJ lived with his parents when he first started working in the city, so he knew what he was getting himself into. One of my best friends used to do a super long commute too (even further out of the city then we are!). I am happy to admit, that over all I am pretty pleased with the train ride.

A few things about it:

  • Pro: I get to spend more time writing posts and checking out other blogs and Pinterest
  • Pro: Allows me to have an extra two hours (back and forth) to do additional work before and after I’m in the office!
  • Con: Allows me to have an extra two hours (back and forth) to do additional work before and after I’m in the office!

I kinda feel like I’ve just been working non stop. Not so great. Something I will have to balance out a bit more moving forward. While keeping busy makes the train ride go by quicker, the workload has been a bit taxing. Yesterday I had a meeting with clients at their office in CT so I was able to drive. On my way back home I got annoyed with driving because I couldn’t be multi tasking. Anyone find it strange that I’ve tried to think of a way I could talk to my phone and have it capture notes for me? Pretty sure that’s a possibility, but I am also very sure I shouldn’t figure out how to do it.

TJ and I will be getting a second car proooobably before the snow starts falling. I am excited to have “my own” car again. I am even more excited not to have to drive back and forth from the train station 4 times every day (even though its saving us $$). The question is, what kind of car? I’ve never had to answer that for myself. To me, cars are one of the more difficult decisions to make because I am (pathetically) very swayed by the makers branding. Personalities are basically confirmed by the car that you drive. I am only half joking here…

Have a great first legit fall weekend everyone, xo!


Change to be thankful for

I’ve lived in several different homes. The one I grew up in, the one I shared with three amazing girls in college, several apartments in Queens as a “working adult in the city”. A few days ago, TJ and I said goodbye to the first home we shared together, an apartment with a decent commute to our jobs in Manhattan, to move into our forever home in the “country”. (I put country in quotes, because while I see more wildlife then people on my commute to the train station every day, I am hesitant to commit to being a country girl…)


The change feels really good. My parents came down to help us move in and unpack. Seeing my Dad and TJ sitting on the couch as I peered into our family room, I had an overwhelming sense of everything being exactly the way it was supposed to be.

The process for us to buy this home was not easy. We first saw it in April but didn’t end up closing until mid September. This is NOT normal, even for NY! So much of the time I felt like we were trying to put a circle peg into a square hole with the process, but I am so so so thankful that we stuck with it, gave where we needed to and held strong when necessary.

TJ and I are very fortunate and I am so grateful. My parents always taught me that hard work will always pay off, the easy way out is never the way to go. This is basically the way TJ and I approach life. Sometimes I complain that we are going crazy because of the decisions we’ve made, but in reality I love it. I love the feeling of reward from hard work and sacrifice. It inspires me and makes me work harder…

So here is to the next chapter in our lives, and the crazy, stressful adventures it brings!



Bourgogne Wine Region


Wanted to post a couple more images from our Euro trip! I’ve put together a sample from the Bourgone wine region. Looking back on all these pictures, it feels so surreal that I was actually IN these places! You can see from the below, that they truly are fairy tale like! I highly recommend the area of France. Especially Chateau De Chateauneuf. It was the best food we had in all of France at L’Auberge du Marronnier!






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Beauty around every corner in Paris

It has been over a month since we got back from our Euro trip. It has taken me a loooong time to go through all of our close to 1,000 pictures. Here is a selection from Paris. My favorite thing about the city, was of course the AMAZING food: caramels from Jaques Genin, Bordier butter at L’Avant Comptoir, macaroons from Laduree…and baguettes and croissants from ANYWHERE. But second, Paris contained uncanny beauty every where you turned. And the women. It was literally like all of the beautiful women of the world were just sent to roam the streets of Paris. And they are so fierce! I spotted one women riding a bike with a pair of 5 inch black leather Louboutin boots. Only in Paris, right?



The cafe culture in Paris is incredible. No matter what time of day, you will always find fashionable Parisians packed on the side walks of these great cafes. Coffee shops by day and bars by night. If you pass a cafe without a packed side walk, continue to pass on by, it is very obvious people flock to the really good places!





The Eiffel tower was magical at night. We only saw it from the distance during the day. I highly suggest a nighttime visit. It sparkles like gold!





Half of the pictures I took on the streets of Paris were of the balconies, windows and shutters of buildings. I couldn’t get enough of the Parisian architecture!b_lue_paris2015_0006_seven

The Notre Dam was pretty incredible. Both outside and in. b_lue_paris2015_0007_eight



Okay, so ever since my terrible experience at the Uffizi in Florence, I’ve decided that I cannot go to big popular art museums while on vacation. You stand in line for way to long buying tickets, only to be basically herded through out the place packed in front of the masters like sardines. I am SURE the Mona Lisa would have been great, but you couldn’t pay me to step foot into the Louvre. At least not my first time in Paris. I’d rather spend that time sitting in a park sipping wine. Which we did. b_lue_paris2015_0010_eleven




I will go back on my fear of museums though if you get a recommendation for a smaller, quieter museum like the Picasso. It is DEFINITELY worth a visit. (Plus, Picasso is on of my all time favorites). There were very few people, and the museum was tucked away in a quiet neighborhood in the 3rd arr.

Next up will be pictures of the French countryside, which topped our favorite list for the whole trip! Stay tuned!!